Saturday, December 01, 2018

Is It Just Me, Or Is The Author Of The Article Below A Horrible Person?

It can't be just me.  This woman has not a shred of gratitude:
In my thirty years on this earth, I have received some not-so-great gifts. First, there was Barney Tent circa 1992. It would have been great, but it popped open as soon as it came out of the box. Ironically, it was not very safe for kids. Then, there was this gigantic necklace that looked great for a boho-loving 50-something, but not for a polo-wearing 15-year-old. All I wanted that year was a graphic T-shirt from Abercrombie and Fitch. You win some, you lose some. Later on, there was a basket of brownie mix, chocolate frosting, and jams that I would never use in the three years before it all expired. If only these gift shoppers had the resources offered by my friends and I at Reviewed today. Their holiday shopping would have been much more successful.
What could they have gotten you that would have made you a more decent person?
A few years ago, I asked my boyfriend for a handbag for the holidays. No directions were given, as I, like many girlfriends out there, expected him to read my mind and get me the exact bag I wanted. He ended up buying me a bag that year—but it was not at all what I wanted. The color was wrong. The designer, or lack-thereof, was incorrect. The shape was not ideal. Morale of this story: Don’t buy someone a handbag unless they send you links and/or specific names of the bags they want.
One of my pet peeves is when someone (a specific family member comes to mind) asks me what  I want.  I'm comfortably in the middle class, I'll go buy anything I want.  Replacing my money with yours at the store isn't what gift-giving should be about!  If you want to get me a gift, get me something that you think I'll like.  If I don't like it, you'll never know, because I'd be gracious and accept the gift in the kind spirit in which it was given.  But I usually like gifts!  And telling someone (except maybe Santa) what you want is equally tacky.
Basically, it’s rude to get someone something because you think they need it. You should be getting people gifts because you think they’ll want them, for example a TV or a Kindle.
She was getting warmer, getting warmer, and then with that 2nd sentence fell right off the the cliff.
Every year, tons of gift cards collect dust in wallets, bags, and desk drawers. But why? Most gift cards are literally free money to a specific place. Why wouldn’t someone want to spend free money? Well, if they have no interest shopping, eating, or drinking at the place the gift card is for, they won’t want to use the gift card. An example of this would be someone giving me a Dunkin Donuts gift card. I prefer Starbucks. Another example would be someone giving me a gift card to Ulta Beauty. Great store, but I am a Sephora fanatic. Know your audience before you buy the gift card—or just get the Visa!
Or, you could be less of a bitch.  But whatever.
A coworker told me that one gift she thinks people should stop giving is candles. I had to disagree of course, as one of my top gifts to give people is the famous Capri Blue Volcano scented candle. First of all, I am confident that the Volcano scent is loved by most people, but even if I am wrong (and I probably am), it doubles as chic home decor. Shopping for smells people will like is hard. This goes for candles, body lotions, perfumes...
I love getting and giving candles, but that's just me.  I have 3 Christmas-type scented ones burning throughout the house as I type this!
A few years ago, I got a pizza night light. Funny because I like pizza, but it sat in the package in a drawer for three years before I threw it out.
While I kind of agree with her on the "gag gift" idea, her attitude is just foul.  And why would you throw out something brand new just you don't like it?  Talk about wasteful.
If you jewelry shop blind, there’s a 50% chance you will end up failing. After all, the kiss does not begin with ‘Kay.’ The kiss literally begins with ‘k,’ as in the letter. That's it. When my now-husband and I started dating, he got me a silver watch. The problem: I don’t wear silver jewelry. I wear gold jewelry. I never wore it. To be honest, I would have been happier with a $50 gift card to Starbucks. Now he knows that, and I know to always give him the gift that keeps on giving: A LIST OF THINGS I ACTUALLY WANT WITH LINKS TO BUY THEM.
It can't be just me.  She's genuinely a horrible person.  She should be on her knees every day thanking God that she found someone to marry her, but gratitude is not something that woman knows anything about.

5 comments:

Unknown said...

A. If you want something specific, you can't expect people to read your mind. B. Learn to regift.
C. She sounds epic-level ingracious.

J Newman said...

OK, I’ll be giving you my gift list soon 😉

David said...

I would rather have gift cards. I have received so many horrible clothes and other items i truly hated. It is like “you dont even know me” with some of these gifts.

Anonymous said...

The article is another example on how “the fine art of graciousness” is dying and being replaced with “the world revolves around me” philosphy. Perhaps the author was just having an “off-day” and regrets her “vent”. Perhaps, she could use a little “grace”. 

Ellen K said...

I wonder how many articles she's written about how she can't sustain a relationship? My husband and I have been together since we were 18-we married at 26. It hasn't all been perfect, but I've always been an advocate of blooming where you're planted. Too many young women seem to think their lives must mirror those of celebrities. I guess I wasn't raised that way. Yeah, I've gotten my share of less than wonderful presents, but at some point you just have to chuck it up to experience. I also find that it's up to you to let people know what you like and dislike. You can't complain when you vaguely offer up you want "a purse" but don't specify a color, type or maker. Likewise, the number of gift cards should be a signal to her, that the people who know her have no idea how to make her happy. If there's any consolation, this type of person usually leads a very unhappy life. Not that I would wish that on anyone.