Not everyone agrees with me:
When questions come up about how her kids are doing in school, teachers have assumed she's been following along online.
"I tell them flat out, I don't do that. I don't think it's normal to be so involved. It creates an unhealthy relationship between parents and their kids. I think kids resent it. My job as a parent is to teach them how to do things on their own. I don't want to be that kind of policeman in my house."
Odd way of thinking about things, in my book. And I'm both a teacher and a parent. To intentionally ignore easily available information about your child's progress--I just can't see how anyone can justify that.
Christopher Daddis, an expert in adolescent-parent relationships and associate professor of psychology at The Ohio State University, says while children almost always get better grades when parents participate in their education, kids run into emotional trouble if they feel micromanaged.That's not a problem with the schools, that's a parenting problem. Do you not agree?
"When parents exert too much control, children can become depressed and have increased levels of anxiety."
I've kept track of my son's grades for years. When he did poorly, I was on him. When I saw an assignment that wasn't turned in, I'd be on him immediately to make it up. Eventually, so he'd know if he was in trouble or not, he'd keep track of his own grades and then would try to "head me off at the pass" by giving me the bad news before I'd give it to him. Turns out that by monitoring his own grades, he began to demonstrate the responsibility that had so long been lacking. Was I hounding him? Maybe. Some might call it hounding, others might call it parenting.
While your mileage my vary, the outcome's been very good here at the RotLC household. I'm very proud of him.