As I lie in bed this morning, scrolling through the online versions of many US newspapers (there's an app for that), I happened upon two almost-consecutive articles in the New York Post. I read them both.
I put my boyfriend on a Performance Improvement Plan to save our relationship
Nadeen Hui shared earlier this week on TikTok that she “put (her) boyfriend on probation” early in their relationship, when they were experiencing “a lot of issues.”
“Ultimately I felt like we weren’t compatible, even though we have a lot of love for each other,” she said in the clip, which has been viewed by more than 357,000 people.
“As a last straw, we decided to do a performance improvement plan. For those of you not (working) in tech, a Performance Improvement Plan (PIP) … is what you get put on when they’re about to fire you.
“And before you come at me, I know it’s kind of harsh to some of you, but he’s an engineer and sometimes it’s really hard to communicate with him without using something that he can already relate to. Plus, he kind of liked it.”
Hui went on to explain the couple had “a shared note with daily and weekly tasks he needed to do, and set of things that he needed to work on, and it worked out really well.”
So well, in fact, that they continue to use a similar system for “household chores” and “things that he’s responsible for … that has been the only thing that has stuck and works.”
Six out of 10 young men are single — the disturbing reasons why
They’re not getting jerked around by dating anymore.
New Pew Research Center data has found that nowadays, 63% of men under 30 are electively single, up from 51% in 2019 — and experts blame erotic alone time online as a major culprit.
“[Young men] are watching a lot of social media, they’re watching a lot of porn, and I think they’re getting a lot of their needs met without having to go out,” psychologist Fred Rabinowitz told the Hill.
“I think that’s starting to be a habit.”
Am I the only one who sees a connection?
3 comments:
Honestly, most women in their 20-30s these days are insane and have super unrealistic expectations. Just my $0.02.
For the first, I wonder what improvements, the woman is doing for their relationship.
For the second, I can understand the wanting/needing to avoid women. The younger generations are more attuned to their devices rather than people, Covid broke a lot of things and women can be difficult. I say that as a woman who definitely prefers working with either a mixed group or one heavy with men.
So I can clearly see the connection.
Premarital councilors should all propose the following to prospective wives:
Do you believe you should be equal partners in the marriage, house, and family?
Do you think it's okay to make a "Honey do list" for your spouse?
Do you think it's okay for him to make a "Honey do list" for you?
Ann in L.A.
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