As I tell my teen and early twenties sons, you act like two year olds, you get treated like two year olds – I have TONS of friends who don’t agree with me on gay marriage. I have tons of friends who don’t agree with me on much of anything. Hell, I have friends who are communist. I think they need to learn history, but that doesn’t mean I think they’re bad people AS PEOPLE.At least Boston's mayor is coming to his senses, if ever so little:
On gay marriage, some of my more violently opposed friends ARE gay. Some oppose it because they think it will up the ante on getting in other people’s face in a vain attempt at getting the approval mommy and daddy denied. Some oppose it because they think it will destroy the bohemian aspects of gay life. And some oppose it because given our common law marriage laws and alimony suits, no gay guy will ever feel comfortable letting an unemployed friend crash on his sofa for a few months.
And yeah, I have a bunch of friends who oppose gay marriage for religious reasons. It is not my business to get between my friends and their G-d and tell them what they can and can’t believe. As PEOPLE they’re not bad, and they wouldn’t mistreat a gay person for being gay. (THOSE people are bad as people.)
I even have friends who believe in gay conversion therapy. Look – I have friends who believe in crystals, auras and that they’re aliens in human bodies too. Other than the fact that these quirks have enormous entertainment value (sue me, I’m a writer) they are otherwise sensible people, if you ignore the blind spot.
Do I picket their houses? Write endlessly about how evil they are? Tell them they’re not allowed to believe what they do? WHY? WHY IN HELL WOULD I? WHAT WOULD IT GET ME?
So, yeah, you knew it was coming, guys, what the hell is this thing with Chick-a-fil-a? No, seriously. Have you gone off your collective minds?
That the threat was made in the first place, though, and that so many people applauded it, gives me great pause.Boston Mayor Thomas M. Menino repeated today that he doesn’t want Chick-fil-A in Boston, but he backed away from a threat to actively block the fast-food chain from setting up shop in the city.“I can’t do that. That would be interference to his rights to go there,” Menino said, referring to company president Dan Cathy, who drew the mayor’s wrath by going public with his views against same-sex marriage.The mayor added: “I make mistakes all the time. That’s a Menino-ism.”The Herald first reported last week that Menino warned “it will be very difficult” for Chick-fil-A to obtain licenses for a restaurant in Boston.
Update: Clarity from Instapundit:
More thoughts over at Gay Patriot, plus a recognition that Republican politicians didn’t try to keep gay-friendly enterprises Disney and Home Depot out of their jurisdictions. No, but Republican politics isn’t based around always having someone to hate. For the left, it’s always Sarah Palin, the Tea Party, the Kochs. It doesn’t matter who the bogeyman is, but it’s essential that there be a bogeyman in order to ensure solidarity.Update #2, 8/1/12:
TODAY’S UNBIASED JOURNALISM. Meanwhile, some firsthand reporting by nonjournalists here. And I should note that when I passed the Chick-Fil-A near my house, the line wound out onto Kingston Pike and took up a hundred yards or so of street, after 8 p.m.Hear hear.
I don’t think this can be interpreted as opposition to gay marriage, so much as a response to bullying. But I do think that the bullying has probably tainted the gay-marriage brand, which is too bad. The gay-marriage argument is already winning — there’s no need to engage in Rahm Emanuel-style attacks, and doing so merely invites pushback. And, frankly, I’m happy to live in a country where people’s response to bullying is to push back. link