I do think that teachers who engage in sex with students, no matter how consensual, should be removed from their jobs and barred from teaching unless they prove that they have completed rehabilitation. But the utter hysteria with which society responds to these situations does less to protect children than to assuage society’s need to feel that we are protecting them...I think it best not to be banging the students, but that's just me.
The point is that there is a vast and extremely nuanced continuum of sexual interactions involving teachers and students, ranging from flirtation to mutual lust to harassment to predatory behavior. Painting all of these behaviors with the same brush sends a damaging message to students and sets the stage for hypocrisy and distortion of the truth. Many teenagers are, biologically speaking, sexually mature. Pretending that this kind of thing won’t happen if we simply punish it severely enough is delusional. If anything, to return to Louis C.K., the indiscriminate criminalization of such situations may deter students struggling with sexual issues from seeking advice from a parent or counselor.
If religious leaders and heads of state can’t keep their pants on, with all they have to lose, why does society expect that members of other professions can be coerced into meeting this standard? A more realistic approach would be to treat violations in a way that removes and rehabilitates the offender without traumatizing the victim. The intensity of criminal proceedings, with all the pressure they put on participants, the stigma, the community and media scrutiny, and the concurrent shame and guilt they generate, do the opposite of healing and protecting the victim. Laws related to statutory rape are in place to protect children, but the issue of underage sex, and certainly of sex between students and teachers, may be one in which the law of unintended consequences is causing so much damage that society needs to reassess.
Sunday, September 01, 2013
Sex With Students Not So Bad?
I must admit, I never expected to read an opinion piece like this one--especially since it's written by a woman:
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I must be missing something. How does the adult being a teacher change anything? And if it doesn't why bring it up?
-Mark Roulo
I don't know, except perhaps that there are so few professions out there wherein adults interact with children on a daily basis. Or something.
I still think of one former colleague, now a middle school principal, who discretely courted one of the students at our school during her senior year. He was a neighbor of the girl, attended the same church, and her parents (one of whom was on the school board) tacitly approved. The weekend after graduation, they flew to Vegas and got married -- and she came back to student teach at our school three years later, quite pregnant with their first child. What can i say except that they have been married now for nearly 20 years...
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