Her specific mention of "white men" is most telling. Why did she immediately follow it up with "men of color and queer men"?
I choose not to dance not because it makes me look unmanly, but because it makes me look spasmodic. I choose not to do other things for other reasons, none of which has to do with manliness. And that's OK, I'm a big boy and can make my own decisions.
Maybe she's bananas. And I pay her salary.